I've been trying for a long time to find a solution to the mean mommy problem. I can be patient for a long time, but then I have this snapping point, and I become the mean mommy. I have been praying really hard for help, since just trying to exercise self control didn't seem to be working.The answer came this week in an unexpected way. Whenever Helaman is having a hard time remembering to be kind and/or gentle, we sing this the primary song "Jesus Said Love Everyone" and it helps him remember and calm down.
When I started getting frustrated the other day, the song came into my mind, but with different words:
Jesus said love Helaman,
Treat him kindly, too.
When your heart is filled with love,
You'll know what to do.
This has worked for me every time so far. I don't freak out, and I'm able to stay calm and treat him with love, instead of getting lost in my own selfish frustration. I'm so grateful to know that Heavenly Father loves my boys and is there to help me take care of them. What a blessing to have Heaven involved in my parenting!
I didn't know there was a "mean mommy" problem. You are such a great Mom! What a wonderful idea, to sing that song, I'm going to try it, when I'm weak and frustrated. Thanks for sharing!
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